Every couple has a different approach to wedding planning, while some may jump in with enthusiasm, others may enthusiastically avoid planning if at all possible. What can start out as fun and exciting to build your dream from the top to bottom, can quickly turn into anxiety, stress, and headaches caused by outside opinions from friends and family (who usually mean well), vendors, budget, and any number of other obstacles. Below are the best tips Bride Blogger Karla has found to help to keep things fun when planning your wedding!
Tip #1: Keep the Budget in Mind
Spending money is not always the most fun thing to think about, but it will help avoid panic and stress as the planning moves along. Keeping the finances at the forefront of planning gives you parameters to work in and priorities to avoid frustration later.
Tip #2: Plan Early
The earlier in advance you begin to plan, the more options you’ll likely have for venue and vendors, many of which can book 6 months to a year in advance. Take your time to research both, and ensure it fits in your style and budget as a couple. Planning early will also help allocate funds depending on when deposits and final payments are due, and avoids the last-minute panic when the first 4 stylists you were hoping to work with are unavailable.
Tip #3: Keep it Personal
This should be an easy one, but it’s one that can also be easily influenced by family, friends, and other interested parties. Spend time with you future spouse discussing your goals for your big day and how it reflects each of you and the story of your relationship. You have a great love story to tell that most people attending will appreciate knowing more about. This can start with your overall design of the big day, and gets more fun the more it’s woven into the details – think photos of great memories of the two of you, displaying landmark dates in your relationship, choosing unique elements to your ceremony, special songs you both love, even fun favors that reflect your style or personal taste. Remember, this day is a celebration of the two of you as a couple, so the more it reflects your styles, the more excited it will be for the big day.
Tip #4: Share Your Ideas With Someone
You will more than likely get a million questions from friends and family on your ideas and plans for your wedding, and it’s ok to share them! Including friends and family in your planning can help you sort out options, troubleshoot, and generally help you feel more excited as those close to you get excited about your ideas too. It will also help them feel like they’re an important part of the big day. That being said, it’s also fun to keep some elements to your wedding a surprise to the majority of your guests, especially those outside of immediate family and the bridal party. Planning fun surprises such as personal vows, unique ceremony music, an unexpected first dance song, or fun entertainment for the reception (beyond dancing) are great ways to keep the excitement and anticipation for the big day and will make the day more memorable for your guests.
Tip #5: It’s Ok to Take a Break
This one has been a hard one for me to remember, but getting burnt out on wedding planning can happen to any couple, at any point in the planning process. Deadlines for making decisions will likely be unavoidable, but remember that you and your future spouse have a life outside of wedding planning. If planning is difficult for one or both of you, or just gets to be too much for you and your partner, take some time to step away and focus on other things such as hobbies, pets, friends and family, even date nights with no wedding discussions. Take a bit of time to step back, and step back in when you’re ready to take on the next task. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and odds are, your wedding won’t be either.
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